Tact and Finesse

Throughout these articles you are learning the tools of mechanical messaging but with the introduction of the invitational or drawing aids you are learning the means of transfer from the mechanical to the energetic.
At this time I wish to begin the study of tact and finesse. Finesse is one of the most interesting concepts in riding. It is the place where delicate precision begins with even the most novice rider who learns that a few extra wiggles on the rein produces something more pleasant in the hand. I really cannot malign this style. It is sensitive and searching. It seeks a calm, undisturbed horse. And although some riders seem to capitalize(albeit disproportionately so)on their skill with finesse, even if their horses are not lively, buoyant or athletic moving, there is something to be said for the tranquility they present.
Enter tact. This is another very interesting concept and one I'll admit the horse has had to teach me because I do not possess it naturally! Tact is about choosing the right thing for the right moment so that you get your point across without ruffling feathers. It involves timing and a bit of savoir faire(or social sureness!).
Webster's dictionary describes finesse as refinement, delicacy and skillful handling(without force). It also describes finesse as it applies to the game of cards. It is "the withholding of one's highest card or trump in the hope that a lower card will take the trick because the only opposing higher card is in the hand of an opponent who has already played." HOW INTERESTING! It also describes 'to finesse' as to evade or trick. Well, we all know we cannot really trick horses(even though we might use finesse to try to trick people). But what we can learn from these definitions is how important it may be to delicately handle the horse through the reins or legs as he is quite noble and really holds the higher card because of his sheer size and power. So finesse, or delicacy, is useful not only for changing the mind, mood and will of the horse to bring him into good standing with you, it is useful for calming rough waters so the horse can feel the direction your intent is taking his energy AND feel good about going with your intent.
Now let us look at what Webster's dictionary says about 'tact'. It is a "keen sense of what to do or say in order to maintain good relations...or avoid offense." It says that "poise may imply...tact...but stresses self-possession and ease in meeting difficult situations." In addition it is "sensitive mental or aesthetic perception."
So tact is about holding back. It is about self-control but at the same time super sensitivity with regard to the individual horse you are riding or training so that you can make your way with him go right yet still be friends.